I love our date nights because they always get me re-focused on Brandon. And I think it's important to do that. It's so easy for me to get consumed in our children, and our home...taking time for just the two of us is essential.
I know we go through seasons. And we're in the midst of the season of being parents to 3 young kids. And they are our heart. We adore this season.
But in the middle of this little family of 5, is us. Just us. Brandon and Laura. We don't want to lose that. Because when they are all grown it will be just us.
From out of town?
On a first date?
.....We finally told him we've been married almost 7 years and have 3 kids.
He then asked us what the "secret" was to being so happy and still being in love. I thought that was a funny question. "Still." I think it's sad that there's a perception of marriage that you can't "still" be happy and in love 3, 7, 10, 15, 50 years down the road. The truth is, you aren't in love in the same way you were when you looked into each others eyes and said I do. You're not. It's different. It's more. It's deeper.
We both answered his question at the same time....The secret to still being happy and in love....
Me: "Just....Love"....as I gazed super cheesy over at Brandon.
Brandon: "Always keep God first"
.....Oh right, yeah, God. Keep him first. That's the secret. Sheesh why does he always have to be more spiritual than me.
Clearly that really is the answer. Because keeping God first is what has set the foundation for us. When life has sent us earthquakes of trials and shockwaves of struggle, our foundation has remained steady, strong, and secure. Because it's on Him.
And it's why we are "still" so happy and in love.
Some more random bits of information from the night:
---I don't usually take my camera with us on date nights. But I decided to this time. Funny how when you're dating you have a plethora of pictures together. Like every time we did something we took an entire disposable camera worth of pictures. I kinda miss those cheap things because then I was forced to develop and print the pictures. I ended up with boxes of pictures of us. I have a goal to start printing more pictures out and putting them in albums.
---The picture of Brandon is 1 of about 4. He always shuts his eyes when the flash goes off. So I end up with pictures of him with his eyes either closed or half open. Which results in him looking like he's had one too many.
---After I took the picture of the fajitas, the couple at the table next to us turned around, wondering why I'd just taken a picture of our food. So I started talking really loud about my career as a food critic. It's an exciting one you know.
---Our waiter offered to take our picture. He couldn't figure out my camera and was moving forwards and backwards instead of just using the lens to zoom.
---We were supposed to go a to a movie after wards but it never fails that I always decide to get a redbox and go home instead. So we did. And we stopped at the store to buy diapers on the way home too. Easy on the romance, right?
---Brandon bought me a bouquet of sunflowers that are sitting in front of me as I write. They are gorgeous and just make me smile. I was wiping up yogurt from the table earlier, and looked up to see them. They made me think of Brandon and how he "still" loves me so much.
What about you? Do you go on date nights? What is your secret to "still" being in love and happy?