Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Sweet Mementos

Shortly after having Grace, I was sitting in the hospital room when a nurse walked in with a box. It was a handmade box filled with little items. A little prayer printed on a sheet. Handmade crochet booties and hat. A small silver coin hand stamped with the word "Hope". Small blankets and other keepsakes.

I couldn't believe that people cared enough about someone they would never meet. A box decorated with love and each item in it thought out. With purpose to bless and to minister.

In those moments of despair and heart ache, having just delivered Grace, having held her and said goodbye, I held on to those pieces in that box like they were her, pieces of her. One of them was a little hand made crochet doll. It had been held up next to her, pictures taken with it, to show her tiny size. Reminders for me. Sweet mementos.

When I had Faith, I was given a box again. This one was different. Each box is. Each item prayed over and cared about. Which makes it even more special. That someone I would never meet, would care enough to put time and love into a box like this.

In Faiths box was a little pink bear, with angel wings and a small pink blanket attached. I told myself right there that I would have another girl one day and that I would give her this bear as her own. To hold and to love. To remember. Her sweet sister who came and went before her.

I have these boxes tucked away. High and out of reach. I have only gone through them a few times, simply because it's hard. But I will tell you that those boxes mean more to me than I could ever describe. I took out that little pink bear after we found out we were having another girl. A symbol of God's goodness and promise.

I held it each night along side Mia as I would rock her, feed her, sing to her. I would lay her down with it each night. Set it beside her. It made me smile to see it laying next to her.

3 or 4 months old, I walked in to check on her as she slept. As I peeked over the side of her crib, I saw her. Holding on to the little pink angel bear. She had reached out for it by herself and took it as her own. I smiled and I cried. My heart so full. From that day on, Mia holds that bear close. When she is sleepy. When she is happy. It is her favorite. And it is mine too.


Sweet mementos. They help us remember.

What I have learned above all is that a gesture so small can be so great. A group of women sit and they sew. They pray and they talk. They create these boxes for mommy's like me. Mom's who hold hope. ...Who lost life. They donate their time, money and life for a cause, so beautiful. Dr.'s and nurses, they have care and medicine, but God heals through love. Through people willing.

I wondered if they knew, what they did meant so much. I found the organization "Threads of Love." The ones who gave, who prayed and who cared.

I can think of no greater way to live out the sweet memories of my girls, than to give of myself to women in the same way. It has been my heart to connect with this organization for some time. It's become a burden on my heart to minister and to love mom's like myself. To offer hope and to offer love. God's love and the healing that comes with it.

October 15th is Infant Loss Remembrance day. I will be launching a project in collaboration with "Threads of Love" to make boxes for moms like myself. And maybe like you, or someone you know. To touch the hearts of women in the moments of their most difficult pain. 

These boxes are hand made, and each item is donated. If you own a business that would like to donate items to these boxes please contact me. I will have a list of items on the day that we launch but feel free to email me with any ideas you might have. Businesses involved in the project will have buttons displayed on the sidebar of my blog for the span of the project.

It is my heart and my hope to reach out to these women and to give the same opportunity to as many of you as possible.

I also hope to hold a craft night event here in San Antonio for women to get together and decorate boxes. All of those details will be coming.  There will be lots of ways to donate in different ways if it is your heart to do so. The project will go from Oct 15th to December 15th. Boxes will then be given to Threads of Love and distributed to different hospitals.

For now I am looking for someone who would be willing to design a button and graphics for the project. These will be used on all letter heads when contacting outside businesses and organizations and in spreading the word about the project.

If you would like to get involved in any way, please contact me at bitsofsplendor (at) yahoo (dot) com. I am looking for creative ideas, anyone with the "know how",  as well as those willing to help me begin spreading the word now!

And most of all, please be in prayer as I step out in something I know is far bigger than myself. I know God desires to use me and to use you, to love and to heal through these sweet mementos.



  1. Absolutely amazing idea, so inspired! Get it done momma.:)

  2. Oh Laura, I am so proud and happy for you! To give back what you have been given.. I think it's wonderful! I'm sending you an email :)

  3. I would love to help you spread the word if you have a button or anything as I have family that have also grieved over a child. Please let me know what I can do to help your project!

  4. This is so beautiful. I will be checking back for info!

  5. This is so amazing. The Lord will bless you and touch the lives of the Mommies that you bless through Threads of Love! I will pray for you and what you are doing!

  6. I was one of those mommies that recieve a beautiful box for my precious baby girl madison... so i would love to hel p any way i can to give back to another mommie who need alot of extra loving! let me know what i can do!

  7. this is wonderful. just found you through casey's blog and so glad i did :)

  8. I just read your post on Casey's blog. What a beautiful post. I'm not sure what I can do yet, but I'm hoping that I can help in some way!

  9. Just read you on Casey's blog. Just lovely. I'm emailing you and would love to be involved. Thank you so much for sharing this and for wanting to share so much love with mommas and families who need it.

  10. I can't help but tear up at this. I am only 20 and have never been pregnant, but my mom lost two babies before she had my siblings and I (there are 5 of us altogether). From a very young age, all she wanted to do was be a wife and mother--and to think of her being so young, afraid, and heartbroken just kills me to think about. Luckily for her, she had loving parents, friends, and a husband to care for her. The boxes these ladies make are so full of love and support that I know it is an action that exactly models what Jesus would have us do. Good for you for helping--you are doing a wonderful, beautiful, heartfelt thing! Your story is amazing. So glad I stumbled upon your blog.

  11. I was given a box for my sweet Riley- remembered and miss every second of every day.

    I'll email you about graphics- I would love to help in any way that I can. I found you through Casey's blog, and I'm glad that I did. xo

  12. Hi, I found you through Casey's blog and I love what you are doing. I will email you. :)

  13. Found you from Casey. Praying you have a successful project that helps so many women and families. I'll be looking for the list of goodies to see if I can help out. Steph

  14. What an amazing gift. I would love to get together with girlfriends here in Oregon and put together a few boxes. Can you give us some specifics? Thanks!


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