Friday, March 2, 2012

Silence is Golden

 Growing up I was always getting into trouble for "my mouth"
As far back as kindergarten I was sent to the principles office multiple times for talking too much.
As I got older it was for talking back,
needing to have the last word,
feeling like my opinion had to be heard.
Like my two cents was always necessary.

I think there was also a sense of entitlement.
Like I had the right to voice my opinion, or say whatever I wanted when I wanted.
Even if it hurt people. 

As I've grown up. I've learned something....
It's just not worth it to always speak.

That keeping my mouth shut sometimes speaks louder than actually saying anything at all. 

but that is not always easy to do.

I think it's learned.
....and definitely practiced.

Cause Lord knows sometimes it's all I got in me to just keep my mouth shut. 

I read a verse the other day that pretty much slapped me upside the head.

Proverbs 11:22
"Like a gold ring in a pig's snout, so is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion."


And then because I always like to get the full understanding of a verse and word, I looked up the Definition of discretion:
1. The quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information. 
2. The freedom to decide what should be done in a particular situation.

The freedom to decide.  

Daily I have the freedom to decide if what I want to say or what I have to say is necessary. If it's beneficial to those who will hear it. If it's encouraging, positive, or edifying.
Is it just talking for the sake of talking?
Do people really need to hear or know this? Will it cause offense? 

As much power as there is in our words, there is just as much as power in silence.
It takes strength. Our will. A choice....
...To be quiet.

When I look back over the past couple of years, I can see where God was speaking "silence" to me.
Being still.
Tempering that mouth that I know He gave to me, but understanding how and when to use it.
It hasn't always been easy. But then I don't think it ever is when you are being molded, refined, changed, and stretched beyond where you've been.

It's meant some changes. Some separation. Some clearing and decluttering.
It's meant learning when to speak, and when to be quiet. 

"Sometimes you must disconnect in order to reconnect for a healthy connect"
-Christine Caine 
For me it's a choice I have to exercise daily.
 Because I believe that the very thing that is our greatest strength, can also be our greatest weakness.
The very thing God wants to use can be the very thing you battle.

I don't know about you but when I lean on this verse, it gives me such freedom. 
I don't have to prove myself, or who I am. I don't always have to voice my opinion or defend it.
I can just live it and let Him do all the other work for me.

 Linking up with Kelly and Jami.


  1. I love this! Sometimes I have to remind myself of this......

  2. Girl when I was in high school I had the biggest mouths which lead to me getting sent to the deans office. I think God allowed me to get pregnant with my son so young (i was 18) for many reasons one of them being a way to shut my big mouth. When I found out I was expecting him my mouth snapped shut and stayed shut for years. LOL only now I'm learning to be forthright again with discretion.
    My husband and I have been praying on exodus 14:14 for the last week it a great verse.
    I love this post so much.
    Love ya! xxO

  3. Wow does that sound familiar! My mouth is definitely my biggest weakness and when I'm mad/hurt/upset my greatest weapon. Thanks for the great reminder. Our mouths were intended for much more beautiful things than we often use them for.

  4. I struggle with the same thing. Justin has been really good at helping me realize i dont have to say something about EVERYTHING ;)thanks for your words of encouragement.

  5. I struggle with the same thing. I feel my opionion counts! Gosh the Lord sure rebukes me when I vomit words that don't glorify Him. Thank you soooo much for sharing this today.

  6. I deal with the same thing! I can be such a blabbermouth sometimes, butthis is definitely very encouraging and convicting. I love these verses too! I love your transparency and willingness to be so open. Thanks for sharing!

  7. Victoria HerreraMarch 2, 2012 at 3:49 PM

    Hi Laura,

    I am a faithful follower of your blog for many years now and I usually don't comment but I just wanted to thank you. I have been going through some struggles lately at work and I know in my heart that the Lord is trying to teach me patience and that HE is the one in control but sometimes it's hard.This was exactly what I needed and I'm totally making that Exodus verse the screen saver on my phone! Thank you for being a blessing!!


  8. Thank you! That verse really hit home.. My boyfriend's baby momma is really spiteful and is full of hateful words. At times I'm pushed so hard to stoop to her level, but this verse is so encouraging. Thank you for sharing!

  9. Laura =) Not gonna lie, I was pretty annoyed when I first started reading this. God has been knocking on the door of my heart about this very issue and He most definitely just used you to speak to me again. So I guess it's a good annoyed...kind of =)

    Thanks for writing. So many times my words are not healthy or needed and it is only my pride that thinks I need slash deserve to be heard.

    I also wanted to ask about the link up you joined. It looks really interesting but I couldn't follow the link, Where does that lead? I'd love to read more from there.

    You are so sweet. Have a wonderful weekend =)

  10. LOVE THIS!!!! Hope you have been fantastic friend. Your intervier goes live this week. I emaild ya. xoxoxo Hanna


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